Thursday, August 30, 2012

First Conference

Things went well today, better in some way than I expected. BUT, I am fired up about a couple of things. I asked the teacher to make an accomodation and she was worried about how the other kids would react if she did something different for my daughter. She also said she has never dealt with a child who had issues with loss like that. Maybe that is a good thing, since she doesn't have a preconceived idea about it. I gave her a letter written by our attachment therapist from last year. It all still applies this year, just with only half the severity.

She had lots of good things to say about her behavior, attentiveness and work habits. She said she is a strict rule follower, no surprise there. When I asked the teacher her overall impression of her she said, "I LOVE her, do I need to say anything more?" She is more likely to do what it takes if she likes her and she is so well behaved. I am very hopeful that things will work out.

She told me a funny story about today. Today was picture day and they were lining up from recess to have their pictures taken. S asked if she could go to the bathroom. Since they are supposed to go during recess or before, the teacher told her when she was supposed to have gone. She then asked if she could hold it. The answer was no. Then she asked if she could wait until after pictures. S's answer was this, "If you want to see yellow running down my leg!" Oh my gosh, gotta love that child. Yes, she was given permission to go.

The scary thing is that the teacher said she is going to have to start using consequences soon for kids who ask to go when it isn't during the suggested times. S potty trained so late, she has the control of kids much younger. If she is punished for asking at the wrong time, I'm not sure what will happen. The teacher also said that we definitely made the right decision to put her in kindergarten. Hopefully she will see that she is emotionally immature and that she needs to be treated by her emotional age and not her chronological age.

She also apologized for the movie selection and a book they read in class. She is going to give me a list of movies that they will potentially watch for the year so I can make sure they are appropriate. I was very happy that she was willing to do this. I think this year will be okay, I just need to carefully plan what I will discuss with her and try to put myself in her shoes. I hope she will do the same for me.

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