Last night was horrible. S went for a walk with big sis and her boyfriend. She had a flower and dropped it on the way home. Big sis doesn't realize how careful she needs to be with her words, and I think she said something that S perceived as rejection. Somehow, she was saying she didn't want the flower anymore even when big sis wanted to pick it up for her. At least that's the story I got. She came home really upset. This just snowballed into another area, what to wear to beg. She had the dress up outfit on and wanted to wear it to bed. I told her it wouldn't be comfortable earlier but didn't say no. So she started asking again and after this incident and it being bedtime, I said yes. All was well until she said she wanted to wear it tomorrow for exercises. I said no, but she could wear it to bed. On a normal day, this would have been fine. I took her upstairs to bed and it just got worse and worse. She wanted it off now for bed. I had this long talk with her about how I don't know how she feels because she says the opposite when she doesn't get her way(per therapist). She was in stuck mode and going back and forth, so I just told her that if she was going to keep saying the opposite, that I would make all her decisions for her and that she would not be given a choice. She said she wanted the outfit off and I told her it stays on because I don't know how she really feels. It was a horrible exchange, but I felt that was the right thing at the moment. We got into bed(both in my bed) and she continued. Then she said she wanted to be alone in her bed. I knew this wouldn't work and that she really didn't want that. I told her that I was making the decisions and she was going to stay in my bed. She clearly needed me, but had to say the opposite. She would have stayed in her bed to prove me wrong, at least temporarily. She has to act so strong sometimes, it really hard to watch. I told her I needed to leave to get ready for bed and she yelled, "Ditch me, I want you to ditch me!" I told her that I don't ditch anyone and that I would be back. When I got back, she needed to lay ontop of me and eventually next to me. When I pulled my arm out from under her, she was so insulted that she just moved away completely. I woke up feeling as horrible as when I went to sleep. I hope that this is short lived and that she wakes up her happy self. She does still have the outfit on, I hope taking it off to get ready for church doesn't bring it up again.

Update-she woke up like I did, remembering the whole episode. She ended up saying she didn't want to wear the outfit from last night when I told her we would be changing it for church. She had a white tank top underneath that she left on after taking her outfit off. She said she didn't want that either and after discussing it with her to no avail, I took it off in a little fit of my own and flung it across the room. She just layed in my arms for a long time, then was over it and went upstairs where we chose an outfit to wear. Everything was fine after that. We got home from church and after lunch she decided she liked the clothes again. She has them on now. Why do I perpetuate this with her? I actually try to diffuse it as quickly as possible, but hse refuses to let things go. The past couple of days, she gives a little soft punch when she wants attention. This usually happens when we are out and talking to someone. I told her this was not acceptable and that I gave her a little signal to use when she needs to get my attention.