Firstly, S started out with, "I do need a mommy", followed by "I love you" and another, "I do need a mommy." I responded with and I love you and I'm so happy you need me because I need you too.
We have been doing one pattern or exercise and then stopping to do something fun. Out of the blue she said she was a baby, then she said she was sad, then porceded to tell me something bad about what happened to her at the orphanage. She even said what other people said. It had something remotely to do with something the day before, so I thought for a moment that it could have been some sort of extension or projection to her life in China. I am not going to post the details, but it was enough to make me want to cry and be angry at the same time. I guess I sort of doubted her memory could be so vivid, so I asked her hours later about it. I just asked a detail and she came up with two that were very specific and she wouldn't know otherwise. They were two details that she never saw pictures of or that we ever discussed, but I know to be accurate because I saw pictures. I am really amazed that she was able to tell me any of this. Of course knowing this now is so disturbing, I think I'm the one who will need counseling for it. Have you ever learned something that happened in your childs past that was so hard to wrap your mind around? I would love to know how others have handled that. It just took me by surprise. Tonight after her bath, she told me she was so happy. I told her I was happy that she was so happy. She said, "I'm big happy with you mom" How exciting is that????
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