This is Tough

Last night, we got through most of our NR. I am realizing each day that there is more and more attachment stuff coming to the surface. I'm glad we are going through it, but it's so hard to endure. She immediately goes into negative mode. If I correct her at all during the patterns, she stops what she is doing and starts saying negative things. Last night, I had the opportunity to act like her, which usually makes her laugh. She asked me to close something and I did what I thought she wanted. She saw what I did and said, "No, not that!" So I did what she would do, I started saying, "I'm bad, I'm bad, I'm bad!!!" She was really quick to say, "You just made a mistake, right? You're not bad." I was thrilled that she wanted to come to my rescue. Unfortunately, I didn't know the tipping point and I should have agreed with her that I was not bad and just made a mistake. I kept going a few more times with the "I'm bad" like she does, but it was too much for her and then she joined in saying, "Okay, you're bad." SO how did I repair that? I don't even remember now.

The past week or so, she has been hitting herself in the head when she is frustrated. She even pulls at her hair. I found out that she is having a hard time at school. She told me as much when I pressed her as to why she didn't want to stay at school for a long day. I found out from the teacher that there isn't a day that goes by that she doesn't say that the teachers and I won't be happy with her work. WHAT??????????? With all they know, didn't they think this was significant? Why wouldn' they tell me that? I want her out of that school for next year. It would be too traumatic to take her out mid year, she likes going. I think this is all a small part of her day, so it's not like it's dominating her life. It is getting harder for her though, and I will meet with the teacher in a week. She will be out of school for a week because I have to take her out of the country with me, then 2 weeks later she has her spring break. After that, she has like 6 or 7 weeks of school left for the year. I think she has enough hours in that she can go half days the rest of the year if need be. She gets negative at home, and it's not my fault, so I have to give school the same benefit of the doubt-that they did nothing wrong to cause it.