More of the Same

I really need the advice of some attachment people. Do I show her that I am the one controllong the show and force her through her exercises or what? She will eventually do them, but it is horrible getting to that point. She will hit herself in the head or smash her head down on the mat. I can't take the self destructive behavior. Is talking to her and reassuring her going to get her through this? I just don't know what to do. If I am feeling this way watching her, how is she feeling? A little 4 year old can't possibly know what is going on. She said something about having bad feelings. She can't explain what she is feeling. We had our crossinology session a couple of days ago. Maybe it is helping her get it out. It was supposed to help her get past this, maybe it will take time. There has definitely been no improvement in getting her to feel better about doing her NR and being more cooperative. She has this obsession with egg cartons. She has one in my room where we do our exercises and she shredded it in frustration. This was in anticipation of doing her NR, not after we started! We are going on vacation and I don't know what we can keep up with. I'll have to consult with Bette on that. It looks like we are going to need to go through with the anesthesia for her ear wax removal. It is really starting to affect her hearing. She is always saying, "What you said?" I think that expression is adorable, but I do really want her to hear. I reached out for help on this on the NR group, hopefully I'll get some good advice.