Soooooooooooo MAD

We were just making muffins together and she told me something the pre-school teacher said to her. It came out because she had some of the batter on her hands and I told her to try to let it stay on a little while longer so she could learn to live with it for a while. This expression must have brought up the memory because she said that Mrs. XXXX told her to "live with it" when she had something on her hands. That constitutes child abuse when you know you have a child with sensory issues and tell them to just deal with it. I wonder how she would react if as an adult I told her to 'live with it". I would probably be arrested for harassment. Why aren't our children protected? How can someone purposely do that to a child? She really thought it was something she could change just by doing it. Yes, she could adapt slowly, that's the whole concept with OT. A gradual introduction of the offending item and a gradual adaptation. I can't believe I subjected her to that. They did a good job of hiding it from me. She wanted to go back each day, so I thought things were fine. I should have realized that kids go back to abusive situation because they don't know any better. After surviving neglect and abuse her first year of life, it just brought her back to the same environment. Maybe she thinks this is what to expect with all adults in charge of children. It makes me want to isolate her from everyone. She is more verbal now and so I think we are safe. She is getting much better with her emotional vocabulary. I just feel sick after hearing what I just did from her.