School Troubles

We are having some issues at school. It seems that the whole baby crying situation is the same. Yesterday, a child in her class cried and piched a fit which just sent her into a tailspin. She ranted about it the entire ride home. I immediately emailed the teacher. The teacher wrote back that she thought she had a great day and that the child who was the cause of all of the trouble did so at the end of the day and that it wasn't too big of a deal. I have a feeling what really happened is somewhere in the middle. I don't think they are willing to do what I ask, but I don't want to switch schools either. I will have this settled before the end of the year. Is it better to have conflict so S's issues can surface or do I isolate and protect her until she can better handle it? I am the type of person who wants to shelter my children. I would rather go that extreme than to throw them to the wolves and then have to deal with the aftermath. I do wonder if isolating her will just prolong the obvious. Looks like I need to consult with the attachment therapist. I hope I can give her everything she needs without making any mistakes. The poor child has been through too much in her short life, she doesn't need me making mistakes. She got in the car today proclaiming, "I don't want to talk about my day, okay?" I said okay and then asked her if she ate her lunch. She reacted by putting her arms in front of her face, squirming in her seat, and yelling, "I don't want to talk about my day!" She just wanted to go home and have something to eat. She hasn't said anything to me yet, I hope she will tell me later. I'm letting her have some time alone because she needs it after a long day at school. That's the lovely part of NR, it gives us lots of one on one time to have the chance to talk. I don't think anything would have ever come out had I not done NR with her. I thought the developmental catch up was difficult, I never knew how hard the emotional part would be. She was completely non-expressive with emotion until the recent past, it was so easy to not even realize that she had no emotional vocabulary. I hope this phase is over soon, it is completely draining me. It hurts me so much to know my precious little one has had such a hard time and may have some horrible memories.