Attachment

I am so thrilled with the direction our attachment is going. S needs to be close to me to go to sleep, usually with my arm under her neck. She is sleeping a longer stretch at night without waking up. Now, she just asks me to go down on the bed with her when she wakes up. She talks about being away from me when she is at school and repeats what I have said to her about it being okay to be away from eachother and that we always come back to eachother. We had a tentatively scheduled phone consult with the attachment therapist more than a week ago that I canceled. I have been thinking that I should schedule one, but I honestly can't think of anything that we need to talk about.

Yesterday, we went to the park to play. There were only older kids there, but age doesn't stop S from going right up to them and ask them to play. Usually she just joins in without asking. Most of the time she is ignored or they try to lose her. Girls can be so nasty. I ended up reprimanding 2 kids that were there. Of course there were no parents around, which is probably the reason the kids were such brats. S tried to climb up the slide instead of doing it the right way. I made her go up the slide. Then an older girl told her not to slide down because she wanted to climb up. I told her to get down and go around, that s was doing it the right way and she had no right to tell her not to slide down. The girl just looked at me, dumbfounded. Apparently no one had ever told her not to do something. Then S wanted to sit on a bench with 2 girls. They said no and I told S to come back. There wasn't enough room anyway, and they didn't need to include her. Later, when one of the friends left, S saw her opporunity and ran to sit down. The little girl gently took her hand and shoved her off. The reason? She was getting off the bench and she didn't feel like walking around. So she moved my kid!!!!! I yelled, "Hey, why did you push her." She ignored me so I persisited. I asked her how old she was and she started to give me an excuse for what she did. I interupted her and made me tell her how old she was. she said she was 8. I told her she should be a good example to my 5 year old and just said excuse me instead. She never apologized. When S went near her I said, "Stay away from her, she pushes little kids!" Then I heard this slightly older boy recounting the whole episode.Why is it so hard to do the right thing? I stuggled with this with my older kids. I teach them to be good people and do the right thing and then they are surrounded by people who never consider anyone but themselves? Even when you are around what you think parents with the same mindset, their kids end up being brats too? My older kids are nice people who are trustworthy and a friend anyone would love to have, so I guess I need to hold onto that. There are a lot of tough years in between though. I thought since S was more bold than they were, she wouldn't have a problem. She is so sweet though, I can see her taken advantage of. She is happy go lucky, and for that I am so grateful. Maybe she'll go through life never noticing what I do. What a blessing that would be.