Could this be from BIT?

I'm sitting here while S is playing with magnetic dolls. She is pretending one is a mommy and one is a baby and saying, "I love you baby, kiss, kiss, kiss!" Maybe this is just a progression of what she would be pretending anyway, who knows? I guess the coming days and weeks will tell for sure. She has been a little more calm today, even though she hasn't gotten enough sleep. We were all awakened by a loud thunderstorm early this morning. She has been playing very nicely today by herself. We played a game today and she had a hard time with impulse control. On Friday, I spoke with a local mom whose child has auditory processing disorder. She described all of the same symptoms that S has with sensory processing. Could this be a wrong diagnosis? Are they that similar? All of these have some level of overlap. Who has time to research so many things? I just joined an SPD yahoo group and had to go to digest in less than a week because it generated so much email. It has a lot of good info, but I can't read all of that mail. I really hope we can get the impulse control part improved by fall when school starts. This is how bad our oral sensitivity is-we still use a bottle for feeding. She can use a cup, but only to drink a drop or 2 at a time. She refused to drink milk out of a cup. This weekend was a true test if she could go without a bottle. we forgot the bottles, so I bought the closest bottle that resembled her since they didn't have her brand. She refused it. I put it all in a sippy cup, still nothing. I put it in a regular cup and she still wouldn't drink. She went the entire day without drinking anything but a few teaspoons of water. The next day, we found her brand but it had a latex nipple instead of silicone. She tried it because it looked like the same as hers. She put it in her mouth and it made her gag. I ried to make her try it again and she gagged and threw up when it was about 6 inches from her face. So it's not just being stubborn, she is just incapable. This makes me so sad that she can't make this transition. We are going to be seeing some people we haven't seen in almost 4 years. We all adopted at the same time from the same place. Their kids never had the same challenges, and I must admit that I am afraid of being judged. They are the sweetest people you could ever meet, and they have been understanding of what they know about. But people have a really hard time with it. I told a friend the other day about it and she got hung up on asking me questions like, "What does the doctor say?" "Aren't you worried about her teeth?' They just jump to conclusions and don't hear what you have to say. We aren't babying her, she doesn't use it as a pacifier, she doesn't go to bed with it, she doesn't suck on it because she wants to be a baby. "She uses it because it is functional. Her mouth cannot control liquids any other way. The hole in it is like a straw and she drinks it down in less than a minute. It serves a purpose, that's all. It's going to be hard on her when she realizes that other kids will make fun of her. I hope she can overcome these things before she starts school in the fall. My only hope is to find a good school where they will accept her. This means the public school system and a special needs classroom. Right now, things aren't looking good. I hold out hope between NR, Listening Therapy, and possibly more BIT. I can't give up now, even though I am tired of 'possible solutions'. why can't it be more straight forward? I guess that's why we have a society that pops pills for everything, that's the quick fix. That's fine for an adult, but I'm not drugging my growing child.