I hope this is a permanent thing!

Wow, 2 great experiences to report. I had to take S to the doctor with her sister. This is notoriously a place where we have a long appt. We were already there almost 2 hours when we found out that we needed to be there at least another 30-45 minutes. She had been so well behaved so far, but we had already been there long enough for me to go crazy. We were in the exam room and the dr was asking sister some questions. S was talking loudly, and the dr asked me to "keep her down" so he could hear sister. She wasn't being loud, this particular dr is very crabby and should never be working with kids. (he is a pediatric specialist dr) I told her she had to whisper if she needed to talk. She proceeded to whisper to me for the next 10 minutes! I was shocked that she could keep in control that long. At church, we have to go to the quiet room because she gets too loud and active. This was so big for us, and I thought it was a one time deal. 3 days later(yesterday), we were at church. Occasionally, we start out in the main part of the church and I move to the quiet room when she gets loud. We never had to move yesterday, she was so quiet and well behaved. She did a lot of imitating of me, she has been watching my every move. I attribute this to attachment. Over the past approx 2 months, I have been feeding her in the cradle position and insisting on eye contact as much as possible. I think this has made a difference and it makes me wish I had insisted on it sooner. The problem is, and you already know this if you've been reading from the beginning, is that the bottle is her only source of calories. She has always been so defiant and uncomfortable in that position, that I never forced it because I needed her to eat. She is only 24 pounds at over 3 years old. She gets plenty of calories, I think she'd be this size even if she ate all solids. But still, I didn't feel I could force the issue when eating was so important. I can't beat myself up for it, because things may not have been any different anyway. I know other adoptive parents who have bottle fed in the cradle position and still have bigger attachment issues. I never thought our attachment was bad, and I still don't, but I do know it still needs work. I guess doing NR therapy has made things a little more clear. Once we work on some things and they get better, other issues come into light. This is all a multi-faceted process anyway, but working on more than one thing at a time is always beneficial. When I started NR this past February, we had to tackle the biggest thing first and move on from there. I've said this many times before, but it is worth repeating. I am so grateful for the extent of S's needs, because if not for the severity, I would have never found her the proper help this early. I hope I have saved her harder work when she is older and I hope that I am giving her to framework to have the most opportunities open to her. She is one amazing child and I am so priviledged to be her mother.