October re-eval

We just had our re-evaluation and got a new plan. We're going to work through this, even though it won't be easy. I only have one pattern that I need someone to help me with, so the program is do-able. It's really hard to have people in the house, but no one to help. S has started pre-school, and overall things are going well. She has never been anxiously attached, so she had no problem leaving me. One thing she said shocked me. She obsessed about me comiing to get her. I don't know if the teachers mentioned it when it was time to leave. I think she wanted to stay on the playground, because that's the last place they go before it's time to leave. She also talked a lot about saying goodbye to the other children, she didn't like doing that. The second or third day of school, she almost started crying on the way home. this is significant, because almost nothing makes her cry. She said she didn't want to say goodbye to the other kids. I'm so happy it was just that, I immediately thought something horrible had happened to her. They are talking about feelings in school, which is really great. S doesn't express feelings at all. I have been working on labeling feelings for her. It hadn't occured to me that she is pretty even tempered. That would appear to be a blessing, but it makes me wonder what she is internalizing. I finally made her a scrapbook of her life before we adopted her, so I'm hoping she'll be able to express some feelings. She says the cutest thing to me now, I think she got it from a book we read. She says, "Mommy and S hug and make a heart shape, right?" Doesn't that bring up such a wonderful visual? I look forward to sharing our progress, hopefully on a more regular basis. The biggest thing we are working on is impulse regulation.